Bellesa 101: Multiple Os
Are you a one-and-done type of person? Or are you one of the chosen ones that are able to have back-to-back orgasms? Many of us are just happy to reach one “O”, but yes, being able to have multiple orgasms does exist. It just takes a little bit of a learning curve and a whole lot of practice. So if one orgasm just isn't enough and you wanna keep the fun going, here are some tips and tricks on having multiple orgasms in one session.
1. Don’t put pressure on yourself
When it comes to orgasms, the more that you hyper-focus on them, the more likely it is that they won't happen. Try reframing your view from “I have to do this” to “let's see how this goes”. Any and every type of sex is supposed to be fun and pleasurable. So when you're too focused on the end result, you're not actually enjoying the process. You can bring your mind back to the present moment by focusing on your breathing and seeing what pleasure your body is feeling in this moment right now.
2. Practice with yourself first
Before trying this with partners, try it on your own first. That means discovering what feels good to you, what your body likes. This is where the learning curve is most important. You also might notice a difference depending on where you're at in your cycle (but everyone is different). Build the tension up with yourself. Learn about your pelvic floor muscles and observe what's happening in your body when you're close to reaching an orgasm. Our body gives us signs all the time, but it can sometimes get lost when you're having sex with another person. Learning how to get out of our heads and into our bodies will be the magical key to reaching multiple orgasms.
3.Explore with partner(s) you feel comfortable with
If you are exploring this side with a partner, make sure it's well-communicated beforehand and that you're doing it with somebody who actually wants to do it with you. Unfortunately, sometimes it can be hard enough to find somebody who can make us cum once, let alone four or five times. Having a partner who prioritizes your pleasure will change the entire bedroom game.
4. Listen to what your body needs
This is totally a personal preference, but sometimes having breaks in between, like having a glass of water, going to the bathroom, having a short power nap, whatever else, these breaks can help you build up your energy and momentum more easily for the next round. But then again, some people notice that with breaks in between, it's harder for them to get back into the groove phase, so it's totally up to you.
5. Try something new
Maybe you're stuck in this repetitive pattern. You've got a routine that you just can't seem to break. Finding something new - a new position, a new time of the day, a new toy, a new location, or even a new partner (as long as everyone is aware), can really make a difference. Routine and predictability can only work so long when it comes to our sex lives. Play around and get creative in your habits. And if nothing happens, that's totally okay. Try not to get hung up on counting your orgasms. It's a learning process, and what a fun challenge to keep exploring!